They’re Old Enough to Know Better… But They Don’t: Understanding Executive Dysfunction in Teens and Young Adults

“Why can’t they just do it?”

If you've ever asked yourself this about your teen or college-age child, you're not alone. Maybe they miss appointments, forget to text you back, or keep promising to do something but never follow through. They’re smart. Capable. Maybe even thriving in certain areas. But something’s not clicking—and it’s causing chaos at home, in school, or in life.

This might not be defiance or immaturity. It might be executive dysfunction.

What Is Executive Dysfunction?

Executive functioning refers to the brain’s ability to manage tasks like planning, prioritizing, remembering, starting, and finishing. When someone struggles with executive functioning, it can look like:

• Chronic procrastination

• Missed deadlines or forgetting what was said

• Inability to manage time or stay organized

• Emotional outbursts or shutdowns during tasks

• Struggling to transition between activities

These challenges are common in neurodivergent individuals—especially those with ADHD, autism, anxiety, or learning differences. But they can also show up in kids without a formal diagnosis.

This Is the Moment Most Parents Miss

The real issue isn’t a lack of intelligence or potential—it’s a gap in support and strategy.Traditional parenting, school expectations, and even college environments often assume executive functioning skills are automatic by age 18.

They’re not.

If no one’s ever modeled how to manage time, regulate emotions during stress, or break down overwhelming tasks… how can we expect them to know?

Here’s What I Teach My Clients

As a social development and executive functioning coach, I help teens and young adults:

✅ Create realistic, repeatable routines

✅ Break down tasks using visual tools and prompts

✅ Build internal motivation and accountability

✅ Manage emotional regulation during stress

✅ Transition to adulthood with confidence

And I support parents in learning:

✅ How to step back without disconnecting

✅ What to say (and not say) when your teen spirals

✅ How to create external structures that support independence

You don’t have to keep guessing or micromanaging.There’s a better way—and it starts with understanding why your teen isn’t following through.

How to Know If Your Teen or Young Adult Needs Support

You may want to consider executive functioning coaching if your child:

• Has trouble sticking to routines (even with reminders)

• Can’t manage a planner, app, or calendar consistently

• Shuts down when overwhelmed by simple tasks

• Struggles to initiate or complete chores, homework, or job tasks

• Seems emotionally “younger” than their peers in responsibility

If any of that sounds familiar—you’re not alone.This doesn’t mean you’ve failed as a parent.It means your young adult needs a coach who understands how their brain works and how to build sustainable systems without shame.

This Is What We Mean by ‘Legacy in Progress’

Your child’s struggle doesn’t have to become a lifelong story of stuckness.When we understand executive dysfunction for what it is, we can finally support the real need—not just react to the symptoms.

Let’s rewrite the story together.

📣 Call to Action

If your teen or young adult is struggling with executive functioning, procrastination, or the transition into adulthood—I can help.

📍 Offering virtual and in-person support in Celina, Frisco, McKinney, and Plano, TX 💬 Book a free consult or reach out today.

Let’s build a plan that actually works—no shame, no burnout, just real-life tools for a better tomorrow.This is your family’s Legacy in Progress.